The Rest of Your Story Doesn’t Have to Suck.

NEWS FLASH: Changing Stories Counseling (me, Eli) has joined the awesome pack at Puget Sound Psychotherapy and will be moving to 2719 East Madison, Suite 300 in early January!

Are you hesitant/reluctant to try counseling because you think it means something is wrong/broken/weak in you?

This is the first thing on my web site because it is the most common obstacle to people seeking counseling. Life, to be as wondrous as it is, also has to be awful at times. It’s ok not to be ok. And what if there is something strong about seeking support?


I’m not going to pretend that I can tell you everything you may want to know about me here or on the various pages of this site. Really, you should call me. Or email me. We can meet in person. Seriously–choosing a therapist should not be done via websites.

So I’ll keep it tight: I listen as a storyteller. We are all storytellers because storytelling is the most powerful meaning-making tool that we possess. I look for the story and focus in on the chapters that need to be accepted and those that need to be edited.

I use terminology like “depression,” “anxiety,” “mood disorder” “mental illness” etc. sparingly. That is not because I don’t believe these are real, but rather because I try to look past diagnoses to the root of an issue, which is almost always past pain or trauma.

I tend to work with adults on unfinished business from younger years, whether that be a trauma (or several) that remains unresolved or the loss of a person or a relationship.

I tend to work with teens on conflictive relationships with their families, whether that be due to mental health struggles, social problems or normative growth and change that creates conflict.

I tend to work with families on how to evolve. Often families unconsciously try to prevent impending changes from upsetting the structure–even if the structure isn’t working anymore!

I tend to work with couples on getting down to the root truth of what each one desires and weaving a story that can encompass both people’s needs. Or, alternatively, in deciding to separate with compassion.

Welcome to the beautiful struggle!